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I hate when someone stays behind me when I’m using my computer.

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do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?

This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.

^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.

In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.

It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.

I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.

same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM

when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,

and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with

moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.


you wouldn’t believe the number of times i’ve seen “don’t be courteous, don’t move out of the way of other people when you’re walking” on lists of “passing tips” for transmasculine peeps. it’s true; acting like an entitled dickface will help you pass as a cis dude, bc cis dudes do this all the fucking time.

Must be another example of how I am definitely not a man, despite my birth sex. 
That post above about men sticking their fists in your face when they stretch, I fucking hate that. It makes me want to punch that pompous asshole in the face. Honestly, it’s mostly jocks. They’ll do it to men and women, because they think they fucking own the place.
I just all around hate this shit. I’m walking on the sidewalk with a friend and they start moving into my space and pushing me in the fucking grass.
Fucking hate it. I swear, people could have an entire star system by themselves, and some dudebro would find a way to stretch his face in your fucking planet.
Reason #103480128 why I don’t have many male friends.

I ride the bus regularly, and I see this all the time. Is it true of every man, no. But it does happen more often than not and it really does piss me off. I see women with children trying to have one buy them standing and another in their lap because some guy won’t move over out of one of the TWO seats he’s taking up! I just don’t get how this happens. So rude. 

thesedeafeyes:

interstellargeek:

whathunter:

penjolina:

piddlebucket:

randomstabbing:

hilariousslut:

aliveforalittlewhile:

warcrimenancydrew:

historywhore:

warcrimenancydrew:

do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?

This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.

^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.

In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.

It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.

I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.

“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.

“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.

Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.

same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM

when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,

and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.

so of course i came back with

moving out of the way for them as i walked.

he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.

you wouldn’t believe the number of times i’ve seen “don’t be courteous, don’t move out of the way of other people when you’re walking” on lists of “passing tips” for transmasculine peeps. it’s true; acting like an entitled dickface will help you pass as a cis dude, bc cis dudes do this all the fucking time.

Must be another example of how I am definitely not a man, despite my birth sex. 

That post above about men sticking their fists in your face when they stretch, I fucking hate that. It makes me want to punch that pompous asshole in the face. Honestly, it’s mostly jocks. They’ll do it to men and women, because they think they fucking own the place.

I just all around hate this shit. I’m walking on the sidewalk with a friend and they start moving into my space and pushing me in the fucking grass.

Fucking hate it. I swear, people could have an entire star system by themselves, and some dudebro would find a way to stretch his face in your fucking planet.

Reason #103480128 why I don’t have many male friends.

I ride the bus regularly, and I see this all the time. Is it true of every man, no. But it does happen more often than not and it really does piss me off. I see women with children trying to have one buy them standing and another in their lap because some guy won’t move over out of one of the TWO seats he’s taking up! I just don’t get how this happens. So rude. 

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If you do not know me, do not touch me.

It seems like a simple thing to ask: if you do not know me, do not touch me.

I am okay with being touched by a friend; a pat on the back, playing with my hair, a hug – I am comfortable with these things from friends.  (I also know people who are not comfortable with these things, and that should also be respected.)  My personal issue is not that I do not like being touched ever, but that I do not like being touched by strangers.

Now, maybe if I’m in a really crowded space and it’s very loud and you tap me on the shoulder to get my attention or to let me know that you need to get past me, I am okay with that.  I get that.

So what is my problem?

I’ve been giving tours at my college for a year now and there is a pattern I have noticed.  It’s not every once in a while; it’s all the time.  Quite often, someone on my tour (usually the father of a prospective student) will touch me on the back, shoulder, or upper arms, sometimes patting me or even just leaving their hand there for a few seconds.  And I am not comfortable with that.  I am a friendly person; I like meeting new people and I am comfortable offering a handshake.  But I am uncomfortable when people on my tours (again, usually a father) seem to feel the need to touch me.  Why?  Why do you need to touch me?  What gives you that right?

I don’t think these are evil, predatory people.  A touch on the shoulder, arm, or upper back is not sexual or wholly inappropriate; I’m just not comfortable with it when it comes from someone I don’t know.  And I think they just don’t get it. I think they’re trying to be friendly.  And I think we live in a world that conditions men to subconsciously think that they can touch women they don’t know, that that’s not a problem, so they don’t think that it might bother me.  What’s the problem?  

The problem is I don’t like being touched by strangers, especially in a setting where I need to be professional.  If someone touches me during a tour, I feel on edge and shaky and jumpy for the rest of the tour.  I’m afraid they’ll touch me again and I do not want them to.  As a rule I try to stay out of touching distance, but even so people will move closer and touch me.  In a social setting it’s easier for me to say, “please don’t touch me.”  But when I’m giving a tour, I’m supposed to be friendly and a good host, so I don’t feel comfortable saying, “don’t touch me”, or even just physically moving away.

And you know what?  That’s not fair.

I shouldn’t feel guilty about not wanting to be touched when I am uncomfortable with it.  I shouldn’t feel like I’m being rude when I move away or ask not to be touched.  There’s nothing wrong with asking people to respect your personal boundaries.  But still, I always have that little nagging fear on every tour that I will be made uncomfortable and will feel powerless to stop it.